Raising Boys and Girls Podcast: S4, E32 Shauna Niequist Interview

By Jessica Wolstenholm

Shauna Niequist - Raising Boys and Girls: The Art of Understanding Their Differences; Member Book

Sissy and David are chatting with author, speaker, and mom, Shauna Niequist about her new book and how to be a lifelong learner in motherhood and life.

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Shauna’s Books: (you can find them all HERE)

Cold Tangerines


Bread and Wine

Present Over Perfect

I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet


Quote from Introduction: The Myth of Control

We accept the kids we love as they are, not as we wish they were. Shauna Niequist

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Where did the title of your latest book come from?

The phrase, “I guess I haven’t learned that yet” gives us the freedom to look at ourselves as learners. Shauna Niequist

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I don’t know anything about parenting except what I know RIGHT NOW about THIS child. Shauna Niequist’s wise mom-friend

Ask your kids: What’s it like to be you right now? Shauna Niequist

What are some practical ways you have learned to take care of yourself?

A good therapist



How has your focus on curiosity and self-compassion affected your parenting?

You don’t all of a sudden become a parenting expert because one day you had a baby.

Forgive yourself for what you don’t yet know. Shauna Niequist

Be willing to ask for help. There are so many experts but I’m not one of them.

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What are some ways parents can lean into the idea of delighting in their kids?

Kids who are delighted in feel more delightful to other people. Sissy Goff

If you are not tending to yourself in all other areas of your life, you are not going to bring your best self to your parenting. Shauna Niequist

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Be the best possible human so that you can be the best possible parent.

I am easily delighted when I’ve tended well to myself. That is my responsibility.

Grounded and connected living is my responsibility.

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What are some more ways you would encourage listeners to find delight?

Ask yourself: What would I regret not doing today? If I don’t do these things, I’d be living outside of my values. Shauna Niequist

It’s not my to-do list, it’s connected to my values.

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How do you incorporate your gift of hospitality into your parenting?

We do our best to make our home a place that our kids and their friends want to be.

Hospitality is paying attention. It’s noticing what other people like and holding space for them.

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What are some things that are harder about being a parent in today’s world?


Not living close to extended family. Making an investment in those relationships.

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What is something you’d like to bring back from your childhood?

Growing up traveling, being taught that there is good in the world.

What is something you loved growing up?

Little House on the Prairie books