Raising Boys and Girls Podcast: S4, E36 Kids and Emotional Safety with Dr. Josh and Christi Straub

Do you wonder how to handle your kids’ emotions? Join Sissy Goff and David Thomas as they visit with Dr. Josh and Christi Straub to talk about emotional safety and parenting.

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Find all of Dr. Josh and Christi’s resources at famousathome.com

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  • Safe House
  • Famous at Home
  • What Am I Feeling?
  • What Do I Do With Worry?

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“I can lead hundreds of people at work but I go home and I don’t know how to lead my family.”

The world is pulling us away from family so we are giving our families our leftovers.

Your biggest fans already live under your roof.

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When you are famous at home to those under your roof, you show up differently on your stage. Josh Straub

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What does emotional safety mean and what does it look like for families?

Safe, secure attachment

Our response when they fight, flight, or freeze.

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More than techniques, what matters is the posture by which we show up. 

You get to wire your child’s brain by how you show up to them. Josh Straub

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When we show up well in the moment, it has a calming effect on our child’s brain so they can think straight. Josh Straub

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Philippians 4

Gentleness = your power under control.

The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing.

With thanksgiving – gratitude.

Label what you are feeling. Talking about it with God.

There is a calming effect when you verbalize your emotions to God.

Emotional safety is leading in grace and following in truth. Josh Straub

We either minimize, dismiss, or punish. But if we can enter into their world, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry we can get to their heart.

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What would you say to parents to offer hope right now?

What is the next best decision you can make that’s going to help you show up as your best self? Christi Straub

What is one thing you can change right now?

This is not just self care. It’s deeper than that.

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Parenting can be summed up in one phrase: Our kids become who we are. Josh Straub

Our emotional ceiling will become our children’s floor.

Give yourself grace. These really are unprecedented times.

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What is a vintage value you feel kids are struggling with now more than ever?


Our children are weaker and more feasible than ever in history.

We are putting our anxiety on our kids by trying to protect them.

We’ve tried to remove a lot of the stressors because we feel like they’ve been dealing with so much.

Our kids need to know how to do hard things; to do things they don’t want to do. Christi Straub


Kids need to own something age-appropriate in the house so they can be a part of the family team. Josh Straub

There has to be training before blaming. 

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What would you say to parents who feel behind because they didn’t grow up this way or haven’t started this yet?

John Gottman researcher . . . If you get it right 2 out of 5 times, you can still get the outcomes you want from your kids.

We can enter into our child’s world and become a student of our kids. 

Ask: How can I enter into my child’s world, even if I don’t agree with what they like or what they are doing?

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What are some things from your growing up years you’d like to bring back?

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