Raising Boys and Girls Podcast: How to Be a More Intentional Parent


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Raising Boys and Girls Podcast: New Year’s Show Notes

The Raising Boys & Girls podcast is here to help you make 2021 your best year yet!

Join Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan this week as they share grace-filled insights, practical ingredients, and Bible truths to help you be a more intentional parent. 

Connect with Sissy, David, and Melissa at raisingboysandgirls.com

Connect with Minno at podcast.gominno.com

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Books, Podcasts, Blog Posts, and Resources Mentioned in the Show

Are My Kids On Track? book

Dadville Podcast 

The Science behind smiling.

How Children Raise Parents by Dan Allender 

Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman

The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile

Annie Downs Podcast

The Enneagram Journey Podcast with Suzanne Stabile

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Quotes, Questions, and Helpful Information

The most important part of being a parent is being a person. Eugene Peterson

What helps you be intentional as a person? 

I’ve been requiring myself to watch or do thirty minutes of something every day that makes me laugh. – David Thomas  

I’ve started waking up thirty minutes earlier than I used to every day which has created margin in my life and has made such a difference in me being intentional in all things. – Sissy Goff

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    The ingredients of being more intentional in the lives of the kids we love: 

    Think about the purpose of parenting.

    Ask yourself, what did you become a parent? 

    The journey of parenting is more about our growth as people than it is about our kids’ growth.


    Check your baggage. 

    Kids are going to draw out your stuff more than anyone else in your life. 

    Every family has one child that pushes your buttons more than others. It’s most often your oldest child of your same gender and is the most like you.


    Become a student of your child.

    Study their development and temperament. 

    Go back to season 2 of the podcast where we look at ages and stages.

    Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he won’t depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 ESV


    Pray: God give me a vision for this unique child. 

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    There is no relationship on earth in which we are called to be more noble and to sacrifice more deeply than with our children. No other arena in life holds us more hostage to hope, more afraid to dream, more defensive about our decisions, and more open to receive help—all simultaneously. The intensity and passion of parenting bring the potential not only for our worst but also for our very best as human beings. Dan Allender

    3 Intentional Practices:

    • Use the Enneagram to help you better understand yourself and your child.
    • Find a sounding board that you trust.
    • Lean into someone a decade ahead to help you parent with a long view.


    The Enneagram can help you give yourself and others more grace. 

    The Enneagram helps you consider the lens through which you see all of life—your relationship with God and with others—and the things that get in the way.

    You’re blessed when you get your inside world—your mind and heart—put right. Then you can see God in the outside world. Matthew 5:8 MSG

    If you don’t feel like you have a safe, trusted sounding board, find a counselor in your area. 

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    Anchoring Truth: Melissa Trevathan 

    Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly. Matthew 11:28-30 MSG

     There is a rhythm of intentional parenting. It’s God’s rhythm.  

    When you lose your rhythm just stop and start again.

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